Homemakers Working from Home

woman on computer So many moms want to be home with their kids but they know finanially they need to be bringing in money.

It’s one thing I think the homemakers of previous generations had better than us. They were able to stay home to raise their kids.

I know there were women who wanted to work outside the home and were not allowed to. Now it seems though the tables have turned. Many women want to be home but can’t be.

The good news is there are jobs and businesses you can do at home. The bad news is they are sometimes hard to find. But scams are plentiful.

First, let me give you this mantra to keep in your head. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably isn’t legitimate.

The scams will have you convinced you can make a fortune by doing very little work.  But you will need  to send them $49.99 or whatever as a “processing fee” to get started. Just a warning folks. If they ask for a fee, it’s not legit!

The only exceptions to this is if it’s a party plan type of biz like Avon, Tupperware, Pampered Chef, etc. You will need to buy a sample kit for these type of businesses. And they are legitimate.

Some things may advertise themselves as work at home opportunities and you can make money at them, but the money is so low, it’s not something that you can really do as a job. Mystery shopping and doing online surveys come to mind.

It’s much easier to start your own business than it is to find a job that will allow you to work from home but one thing to keep in mind, if you are starting a business, it will take a while to start turning a profit.

Before you go out there looking for work that you can do at home, get out some paper and pen and make a list. What do you like to do? What are your talents? What do people tell you that you are good at doing? What do/did you do when you were working outside the home?

Now that you have your list, look it over and see if there is anything that can be transferred to a business or job at home.

Are you good at customer service? Well, there are some customer service jobs that can be done from home. The only thing is they do require you to be in a quiet environment. No loud kids, crying babies or barking dogs.

Do you like doing crafts?  You can get your own little online shop on Etsy.com to sell your crafts. I actually do crafts and sell them myself. I don’t sell on Etsy, I have my own website. My crafts are very seasonal so I sell at local craft fairs in the Fall. I have been able to make a fairly good part time income doing this. If my crafts were popular year around, I suspect I could make a full time living at it.

Do you like to write? There is a huge need for good online ghost writers. There are places online such as About.com where you can be paid to write for their site. Or you can start your own website and write on that.  After your site is getting some good traffic, you can monetize it with affiliate links, adsense and/or selling ad space.

Were  (or are) you  an administrative assistant? You can easily transfer that online and be a virtual assistant.

Are you a programmer or have some other techy type job? That can also be easily transferred online. Lots of people need help with their websites or even have a website built.

If you are good in sales and enjoy being with people, one of those party plan type of businesses I mentioned above would be ideal for you.

If you are a fast typist, you can be a general transcriptionist. And if you are a medical or legal transcriptionist, there are plenty of job opportunities you can do from home.

If teaching is your thing, why not try tutoring.

If you are a musician, offer lessons.

If you love kids, start a home daycare. One of my friends makes almost $1000 a week doing this.

Just do some brainstorming.  A few good sites to help you out are wahm.com and WorkAtHomeSuccess.com

Good luck!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Easy Relaxation Tips for Busy Moms

woman reading Moms are a hard working bunch. We take care of everyone and are on call 24 hours a day. It’s a tough job with no pay. At least not the monetary kind.

With all the things we moms have to do in a day, it’s no wonder we are usually last on the list.

But that’s not healthy. And it’s not effective. Like the old saying “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”. As human beings, we need to have time for ourselves. We aren’t robots.

As much as we are capable of loving and nurturing others, it does take it’s toll on us. We need to rejuvenate so we can continue to be that loving and nurturing woman.

If you ignore doing this, don’t be surprised if you develop some physical problems as well as emotional problems (I speak from the voice of experience here).

Here are some of my best tips for getting some Mom time:

  • Try to spend a little time, 15-30 minutes every day just doing nothing but relaxing. If it’s nice outdoors, go outside and breathe in that fresh air.
  • Read a book which is my favorite relaxation activity. Nothing like a good book to take you away to another world.
  • If you can handle getting up earlier, try getting up 30 minutes earlier than everyone else. Just give yourself enough time before your “Mom job” starts, to read, listen to music or a motivating podcast, sip your coffee, write in your journal, meditate, whatever. Giving yourself this time at the beginning of the day is a great way to start the day.
  • Make everything a fun, beautiful and special experience. Make an ordinary bath a spa experience by playing some soft music, using bath oils or bubble bath and a comfy inflatable bath pillow. I love doing this occasionally but have been known to fall asleep in the tub.
  • When watching TV, make it a theater experience by turning out the lights, pop up some popcorn and getting comfy under a big soft blanket on the couch.
  • Get a break a way from the kids once in awhile. Get their father to watch them or a relative or even hire a babysitter if you have to. I like the spending time with dad idea the best if possible. You could make it a weekly “time with dad” date for the kids where they do something fun. Kids need one on one time with their fathers.
  • While the kids are bonding with their father, you can do something for you. Go get a manicure, or go shopping or take a nap. This is also a great time to get together with your friends that you rarely have time to see anymore. Go to a movie with them or maybe just a coffee shop to catch up.
  • Try not to schedule too much in a week. It’s not good for you or your kids. When my kids were school aged, they could each have one extra curricular activity per school year. No one child needs to be in dance class, girl scouts, band and swim classes all in the same week. Or even year. All that will get you is an exhausted child and worn out mom.
  • In the same manner, try to do as much as you can ahead of time so you aren’t exhausted and frustrated. For example, when I cook dinner, I often make enough for two dinners and freeze one for another time. I also use my crock pot a lot so while I’m cooking dinner one night, at the same time I will prep the food, and stick it in the crock pot for the next day. Just stick the crock in the fridge and in the morning pull it out, stick it in the base and turn it on.
  • When my kids were in school, I would make their school lunches right before I cleaned up after dinner. Then I’d put them in the fridge and it was just one less thing I had to stress about the next morning.
  • Try to get some exercise in every day. It will release the built up stress, relax you and keep you healthier.
  • Take some time every day to laugh. I subscribe to some funny online blogs so when I need a pick up, I just go into my google reader and find something funny. You could also get one of those funny calenders to keep on your desk. Or watch a sit-com. Whoever said laughter is the best medicine, knew what they were talking about.

All these things sound like a lot but just try implementing one thing at a time. When that thing has become a habit, then add something else. It will make a real difference in your quality of life. You owe it to your family to be the happiest, well adjusted mom you can be.

5 Time Management Tips for Moms

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My last time management article got such positive feedback, I decided to add some more tips for you. Enjoy!

It’s quite possible that if the world’s moms were polled about what they would like to change most in relation to their children, it would be how to manage time.
It can be tricky even if you’re a stay at home mom. Kids, especially toddlers, can be demanding, but you still have to do all these other things. What can you do to manage time better?

1.    Have a to-do list. On it, write what needs to get done tomorrow. You can do it as the last thing in the kitchen before you go off to bed at night. Many times, we lose time because we move from task to task without a plan.

2.    Get the family to chip in. Remember, if momma aint happy, nobody’s happy. If you’re feeling like you’re under too much pressure, ask everyone else to chip in. Otherwise you’ll get irritable and make it harder on yourself and the kids too. Kids can pick up after themselves and your partner can help with chores. As they grow, teach them to participate in the home so that they leave you with more and more free time.

3.    Cook multiple meals at once. If you have to make lunch and then dinner every day, mind the kids, do the laundry, clean the house and everything else every day, you’ll soon buckle under the pressure. Cook and refrigerate lots of food so that all you have to do is warm it.

4.    Wake up 1 hour before your kids do. This is your time to get organized. Take a shower, get dressed and generally get ready so that when they wake you’re available for them and there is less chaos.

5.    You don’t have to clean the whole house every day. Clean vital areas only and then pick a day in the week when you spring clean.
As a mom, when it comes to time management, try not to look for perfection; remember that in a sense, the time that you have is not really yours – your kids steal it all the time. If you find yourself stressed out, ask someone to help you and take some time off. The kids will still love you when you get back.

 

 

 

 

For another great organizing article, check out Home Organizing Tips from my Best Friend.

The Best and Worst Advice Moms Give

What Kind of Advice Do Moms Give Their Kids?

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I hope all the moms out there had a great Mothers Day. Mine was pretty good. Nice and quiet. I actually got some business work done which may not sound like a fun thing to do on a holiday but since I love my work, it’s fun for me.

Being that it was Mothers Day, I was wondering about this question: What was the best advice you got from your mom? I asked on twitter and facebook and was going to ask on Yahoo Answers too but saw that someone had already asked that question and there were lots of answers.

I tried to remember back to some of the advice my mother gave me but I can’t say it was good advice. For example, she used to say “It’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man.” Well yeah, if there are an equal number of rich men and poor men around. I never found very many rich men to choose from.  Or another classic of my mom’s “Do as I say, not as I do.” Yeah, that one went over real big. I’m sure she gave me some good advice too. I just can’t remember any of it.

In looking at the advice others got from their moms, some of it was great. I thought ‘I need to remember to tell that to my kids’, even though my kids are grown. Other things, if their moms actually said these things, made me sad for those kids. I had to wonder what kind of mothers would say such horrible things to their child?

Anyway, below is a sampling of some of the best advice given to kids from their mothers and below that, the worst advice given to kids from their mothers.

Best Advice Given from Mothers

  • “You are your own person and you have to believe that you can do what is right. Everything you do is for a reason. Life is for learning and I will support you in life as I did when you were in school.”
  • “To always do what makes me happy and not worry about the opinion of others too much.”
  • “Be what you want to be, don’t let anyone stop you.”
  • “Believe in yourself!”
  • “Be yourself. Never give into bad temptations. Always try harder than you did the last time and NEVER give up.”
  • “My mom always tells me to do what I love to do while keeping in mind the consequences of my actions.”
  • “No man is worth crying over, and the one that is won’t make you cry.”
  • ” Don’t worry about what others think of you, you are an exceptionally a good person. Everywhere you  go, people will always have judgment. You must believe in one thing ,yourself. Be that girl who will stand up and be strong, because you are, honey. You have our family blood that runs in your veins. We are and always be proud of you. Anything you  do, finish it. The world will always complain and will always try to stop you, but the only thing  that should matter to you, is your own happiness.”
  • “Learn from other people’s mistakes.”
  • “Never ever go against your gut and if you can’t say something to someone’s face then you certainly have no business saying it behind their back.”
  • “Keep your head high, but your nose at a respectable level.”
  • “I must have been 13 years old , after misbehaving, I asked my mom ” Do you still love me?” And she said” Honey I am your mom I am always going to love you, No matter what!! But think about what you are doing because if you don’t like yourself I can not fix it. Always make sure you can live with what ever you do.” I have heard these words when I was about to screw up and it saved me a ton of mistakes.”

Worst Advice Given from Mothers

  • “Go to Hell.” *Editor’s Note* If that was her BEST advice, I’d hate to see what her worst advice was.
  • “At the end of the day we are all screwed.”
  • “My Mother always told me that accept whatever life gives you and never do anything to achieve anything.”
  • “In case you are hit by a car always have clean underwear.” *Editor’s Note* It won’t matter if it’s clean or not because odds are, being hit by a car is going to cause you to soil your pants although I do agree you need to wear clean underwear. LOL.
  • “‘Your a screw up, your never going anywhere in life, you seem like a pedophile and you leave my house now.’ I was 12.”
  • “Give up.”
  • *Editor’s Note* This one really made me want to cry: “I was 8 and her exact words after I pleaded for her to get my step-father to get off of me: ‘Just take it like a man.’ Well Mom, I did for several years, so thanks for the only advice you’ve ever given me…”
  • “Stop asking me for advice you waste of space.”
  • “My mom never gave me any good advice. I’ve always had to fend for myself.”
  • “To get out of her life.”
  • “Don’t forget to wear a rubber! Your dad forgot and look at what we ended up with!”

Some women have no business having kids.

Anyway, I asked my kids what was the best advice I gave them. One daughter said; “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince.” She then added that that was probably not the best advice I ever gave her but it was what stuck with her.

My son said: “You can do whatever you want in life as long as you believe in yourself, don’t give up and don’t let others bring you down.”

My oldest daughter answered me in a text message and said “Probably not to put all my eggs in one basket. Like when I was dead set on becoming an actress. You supported my dream and told me I was talented but you also wanted me to have a way to support myself while working on my dream to come true.”

I’d love to know what was the best (and worst) advice your mother gave you. Leave a comment and share!

 

 

 

 

For another article for moms, check out this: How to Deal with a Controlling Mom.