A few days ago, I was coming home from a rough morning at my mothers with my toddler granddaughter. Lately, it seems anytime that I’m dealing with my mother, it’s rough. But that’s not what this post is about.
I was at a stop light and like most people do, I was reading the bumper stickers on the cars around me. The one on the car directly in front of me said “Don’t Believe Everything You Think“.
I thought about that phrase all the way home. Not to sound too stupid, but at first I didn’t get it. But to be fair to myself, I was tired and frustrated and not totally thinking clearly.
The phrase intrigued me and it only took a few seconds before I understood what it meant.
We fill our heads with so much stuff. How much of it is actually true?
I cannot tell you how many times I thought I had been snubbed or thought someone was angry with me only to find out later that the person actually hadn’t seen me or the one who I thought was angry just got some bad news and their mind was on that.
It’s not all about us. I would bet that a lot of the stuff we think about ourselves or about others isn’t really true. But it might as well be if we are thinking it.
I can give you a real life example. My mother was always very technically challenged and I guess I just got it in my head that I was that way too. I’m not sure why I thought it but I did.
Well, when home computers started to get popular in the early 90’s, we decided to get one. I was totally fascinated by the computer and internet but at the same time, I was afraid of it. I was so afraid I was going to break something or even, gasp, mess up the internet. Silly, huh? But after all, I was technically challenged.
At first, I would make my husband load programs on the computer for me. Back then most programs had to be loaded by disc. And of course, I couldn’t do it myself. I’d just break it because I was just so tech challenged.
As the years went by and I got more comfortable with computers, I learned to do more and more for myself. And I even tried experimenting with code and such. And guess what? I didn’t break the internet. I didn’t even break my computer.
Now, for a woman in her early 50’s, I would be considered an “early adopter”. I have built close to 100 websites for myself and others. I’m no programmer but I am comfortable with css and html, ftp servers, dns servers, and so forth. I know next to these young kids out there today, my skills are probably pretty basic, but for my age group, I’m very tech savvy. If you had told me 20 years ago, I would be making a living from my online skills and building websites, I would have told you you were crazy.
So see, my thoughts were what was holding me back all those years. I wasn’t really tech challenged. I just thought I was. It makes me wonder what other limitations I have put on myself that are not really there.
So, now my question to you is: What are you thinking that really isn’t true? I want to encourage you to question your beliefs and thoughts about yourself. You might just be surprised to find what thoughts are holding you back.