First, please excuse me if this post is a little, well off. I have a bad head cold and my brain is kind of fuzzy. Don’t you just hate summer colds? They feel so unnatural this time of year.
I listen to lots of podcasts. Business and homemaking podcasts mostly. I find they keep me company when I’m doing boring housework, or grocery shopping or working on the computer.
Yesterday I was listening to one of my homemaking podcasts. I won’t mention names but this particular podcast is very conservative in their views. Although I enjoy some of their tips, I find I don’t often agree with their philosophy.
Anyway, yesterday I was quite shocked when the hostess on this show stated that she didn’t think working women could be a homemaker. Wait, what?
She feels that homemaking is a full time job and a woman who truly loves her family will sacrifice her career goals and devote herself to raising her children and running her home properly.
Now, I do have mixed feelings on this. I know for myself, when I was working outside the home full time for 10 years, I did have trouble maintaining my home too.
I was just being pulled in too many different directions. My parents needed me. My kids needed me. And my job needed me. With only 24 hours in a day, something had to give. And that something was my house. It was usually cluttered and often dirty and though I was pretty good getting meals together (the crock pot was, and is, my best friend), we often had fast food for dinner.
Even now, my home doesn’t get the attention it deserves. I’m running several businesses from my home, helping to raise a toddler and taking care of my elderly, disabled mother. Even though I have more freedom than I did when I worked full time, I am still being pulled in many directions.
The difference now, with me being home more; I’m trying to make my home more of a place of refuge for myself and my family.
Even though I couldn’t pull off being a homemaker and a working woman, doesn’t mean it can’t be done. I know several women who do a great job of doing both. I think it all depends on the individual.
Of course, if you can devote yourself to being a full time homemaker, you are going to do a better job than if your time is divided by a job too.
But seriously, I have a problem with being told if I work, and I assume she meant any type of work, both at home or an outside job; I don’t truly love my family. Many of us would love to be full time homemakers and not have to worry about bringing in money but this isn’t the 1950s.
Many of us are single. Those who are married often find their husband’s paycheck isn’t bringing in enough to support the family so they have no choice but to help out. In my opinion, we are loving our family by providing for them, whether we really want to be working or not.
I think for the most part, the majority of us are just doing the best that we can with what we have been given to deal with. And we should not feel guilty if we can’t live up to some ideal standard.
Likewise, we should not make others feel guilty. We don’t really know what they are dealing with.
So what are your opinions about this. Can you be a working woman and a good homemaker too? What has your experience been?