Mother’s used to tell their children that clothes make the man. Today’s generation gap could not be more prolific, and defined. Clothing lines and styles inspired by oversexed celebrities and musicians influence the image and style of children and teenagers. Various school districts implement dress codes to prevent certain kinds of conduct and ward off implied gang activity. However, parents still need to make a step towards aiding their children in clothing choices. No one wants to be the prudish controlling parent, but neither does anyone want their five year old playing outside dressed in a tube top.
In order to have an affect on your children and their wardrobe, sit and have a serious heart to heart. Tell them to come to the table with a few pictures of styles they want, celebrities who they want to follow, brands that they like. Take the time to through these looks with them. Do not just dismiss them right off the bat; coming into the conversation with a combative nature will signal that you are looking for a fight, and they will be less than receptive to what you have to say. Instead, explain why such a look is not age appropriate and show them images of what is. Talk about the signals certain people get from picks of clothing. Be open and honest. Refrain from talking down to them. Remember, your child may be in that very critical stage between childhood and adult. Treating them with due respect will give them a better sense of self confidence, and personal self-image and confidence go hand in hand.
Set a budget for yourselves and make a trip to go shopping together. Go to various stores and pick out items to wear and try on. Talk to them about dressing professionally, about dressing for interviews. Before you know it, your little one will be venturing into the job market and what better time to broach the subject. Talk to them about looking and feeling good and how you can do it without showing off flesh. You hold the purse strings, so the ultimate decision is yours, but get them actively involved and interested in what you have to say. Compliment their good features. It builds confidence. If your daughter has good legs, you can build a look without going for the miniskirts. Instead, talk about summer dresses, tights, and modest skirts. Work on compromising skills with each other. Maybe they like a certain pair of pants, and you like a certain shirt. Make an outfit together.
Children will be headstrong and children will aspire to certain kinds of looks thanks to the highly publicized media and social networking outlets. But do not forget that you as a parent have an ultimate responsibility and say while they still reside with you. Do not turn wardrobe choices into a fight; there will be enough to argue about in the future. Instead, use this chance as an opportunity for bonding and compromise between parent and child. Talk to them, go out with them, spend time with them and be honest without confrontation. The more open you are to their individual tastes and trends, the more they will consider the wise words and concerns of the parent.
Byline: Melissa Anderson suggests choosing appropriate clothes for your kids, whether you are purchasing fitted hats, skirts, shirts, or any other item.