Transitioning to Homemaking

Note from Cathy: Another in our guest post series while I’m on vacation, we have Sarah, a bride to be, who gives us her plan on starting her new home with her new husband. Aren’t they an adorable couple?

Sarah and Chris
Sarah and Chris

My wonderful fiance, Chris, and I are getting married on October 1, 2011, and I am excited about this day for so many reasons. Beyond all the wedding day festivities and getting to wear my dress, I’m excited to start married life with the man I love —  which includes being a homemaker!

In all the hustle and bustle of wedding planning, it feels like preparing myself for this huge part of married life takes a back seat, but it shouldn’t. In the not-so-distant past, a girl spent her childhood and adolescence learning domestic duties and caring for younger siblings.

I, on the other hand, am an only child. I went to college, and I have a full-time career. I have plans to maintain my professional life. I’m part of the new generation of homemakers!

Chris and I are not living with each other until after the wedding, but I can already tell what my duties are going to be as a homemaker based on our relationship, personalities, and schedules.

  1. Cooking — Chris is an excellent cook, probably better than me, but his work schedule has him burning both ends of the candle. I could see us taking turns in the kitchen, but I know on a long day out working, he’ll really appreciate having dinner on the table when he gets home.
  2. Cleaning — I like everything to be orderly, neat, and clean. Chris doesn’t care as much. I wouldn’t say he’s messy, but he probably doesn’t keep track of how long he goes between towel washings like I do. But guys will be guys, so I’ll keep on top of the cleanliness.
  3. Decorating — The decor in Chris’ apartment stems from his frat-boy days (think Arnold Schwarzenegger poster and beer bottles), so it’ll be my duty to furnish and decorate our home. This is one of the more fun homemaker tasks, I think.
  4. Shopping — Chris goes into the grocery store with no plan of attack or recipes in mind. He buys what looks good — and has a knack for cooking amazing dishes without a recipe. I like to make shopping lists and have what I’m going to cook that week decided in advance. I think this will be even more important when we add little ones to our family.
  5. Scheduling — Even now, I’m the one who coordinates with our families to schedule visits and plan itineraries. To put it simply, I’m a planner and he is not. I think that’s a good thing, though, because he’s better at stepping back and enjoying life, rather than always planning the next part.

So, I have to ask all you experienced homemakers for your advice. What do you wish your newlywed self had known? Any pearls of wisdom or snippets of advice? Please share in the comments!

Sarah Beckman is an editor at Affordable Scarves where she writes about styling scarves and getting celebrity looks for less. She’s a bride-to-be getting married October 1 in Indianapolis.

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